Our last day with Dr. Kevin Leman and his inspiring advice for great relationships with our kids!
FRIDAY: THE DOC IS IN...AND IT'S YOU
It's time to pull together your game plan!
This week's review:
Monday:
1. Say it once 2. Turn your back 3. Walk away
Tuesday:
1. Acceptance 2. Behavior 3. Character
1. Let reality be the teacher.
2. Learn to respond rather than react.
3. B doesn't happen until A is completed.
Wednesday:
1. Permissive
2. Authoritarian
3. Authoritative or Responsible
Thursday:
1. Acceptance2. Belonging
3. Competence
WARNING: Children who have been allowed to have their own way for a while can be extremely powerful.
*No matter what, the family comes first. So, if there's a problem at home, you don't look at life outside the home until the problem is solved.
*Don't be a spineless jellyfish. Stand up and be a parent.
*Will this be easy? NO. When you start applying these principles, your child's behavior is probably going to get worse...for a time.
*Consistency wins every time.
*It is Dr. Leman's opinion that you should never promise your children ANYTHING. Promising is saying 1) Your car will never break down, 2) every day will go exactly as you've planned it, 3) you are perfect, 4) it won't rain.
*Dr. Leman suggests that you instead of paying a shrink to "solve your family problems," take a trip together as a family.
TOP 10 LIST OF WHAT IT TAKES
10. Be 100 percent consistent in your behavior.
9. Always follow through on what you say you will do.
8. Respond don't react.
7. Count to 10 and ask yourself, "What would my old self do in this situation? What should the new me do?"
6. Never threaten your kids.
5. Never get angry.
4. Don't give any warnings.
3. Ask yourself, "Whose problem is this?"
2. Don't think the misbehavior will go away.
1. Keep a happy face on, even when you want to ... do something else.
What to do on Friday
1. Review the key principles.
2. Identify the mountains you want to address.
3. Think through how you usually respond and how you'll respond now.
4. Get ready, get set...go!
The book goes into much better detail. I hope that you can purchase the book for yourself and/or a friend. Great advice to use throughout your child rearing days! : ) The advice is applicable whether your child is 6 or 16.
I'm excited for you and your new PEACEFUL HOME! With this book and God's help...YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Congratulations on completing the 5 days with Dr. Leman's book! Let me know how you're doing! Share some encouraging stories! We'd love to hear from you!
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